Boundries

Boundaries, we all have them, but are they being implemented correctly? You see it is inevitable that somewhere you will have some sort of boundary. Is it how much you spend, how much you work, who you talk to, what area you visit? But what do you do when you experience hurt? When those closest to you, when it comes from a family member, a co-worker, or even *gasp* a member of the church? Those are times when you want to establish boundaries. Maybe a moment to process the events, how they made you feel, how they currently make you feel, or even how to move forward. Christ tells us from His Sermon on the Mount “But let your statement be, ‘Yes, yes’ or ‘No, no’; anything beyond these is of evil.” Matthew 5:37 NASB. When we are hurt it is common that it comes from a place of disloyalty. Did someone say they would do something or not do something? Did someone commit time, resources, or talents from you and were you expecting it from them? See we get into trouble as Christians because we do not fully understand boundaries. You do not have to remove them completely, but you may take a moment and collect your thoughts. Maybe it is not going to lunch with them every day, maybe it is unfollowing them on Social Media, or maybe it is allowing your emotions to be reconciled so that a friendship can possibly heal. In Psalms 147:3 the Psalmist writes “He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.” NASB. But how does this relate to Boundaries? See when we are hurt we often want to run, hide, and pretend it is not there. But that is not always healthy. Sometimes we have to put up a boundary. Not take that phone call and call them when you are emotionally ready, not answer that text, maybe ask for a change of desks, or in an extreme case you may have to just stop talking with them altogether if the burden of the wound is too great.  In all things remember that Jesus is our healer and to cry out to Him for His will in your situation.